At a minimum, it is a waste of your time, as more likely than not, non-exclusive relationships peter out. It is rude and disrespectful to be subject to such behavior. Dating someone while they’re dating other people is the same thing.
When someone is dating multiple people and not focusing on you, time is passing by.If you’re dating a guy for two months and he is still not exclusive with you, you need to take a sober look at how you’re using your precious dating time.Not one minute of those two months was focused exclusively on you, a prerequisite to really evaluating taking a relationship to the next step.But you really like him and don’t want to leave him because you think maybe tomorrow he will tell you that he wants to date you exclusively.So you hang in there with anxiety and hope while another month goes by.
Finally he tells you that he doesn’t see a marriage potential here.
One thing that is freaking me out at the moment is when I hear of friend and friends of friends, who marry after being together for 7-8 years, but end up divorced after the first year or so. But when it comes to this trend, I've got a theory…
This terrifies me, as I really want to get/stay happily married, but I wonder why this happens … For better or for worse, each of us has expectations about what being married will mean to the relationship.
Tell him you won’t date him while he’s seeing other women. He might say, “I can’t commit right now.” You’re not asking him to.
You’re just requiring that while he’s dating you, he’s dating you and you alone. ” Tell him, “I want to give you my full attention because I value and respect you.
Insisting that a man date you exclusively while he’s dating you sends him the signal that you are special, that you deserve love and care and respect. In my many years of matchmaking I’ve found that the one thing that’s gotten even the most confirmed bachelors off the fence and into marriage are women with inner self-confidence – no matter how quiet or soft they are – that insist on being treated the way they would treat their partner – with exclusive attention. Ziva Kramer, MA has been an international matchmaker, dating coach and spiritual advisor for professional singles for many years.